How to Develop Better Self-Control

For many people, achieving goals successfully can be attributed to discipline, self-control, and good habits.

However, many would also agree that focusing on your goals, mastering self-control, and developing good habits is easier said than done.

While it will require mental and physical discipline to achieve your goals, if you are consistent, committed, and have great self-control, it can be done.

If you want to develop better self-control so you can achieve your goals successfully, keep the following basics in mind:

Forgive yourself.

If you are like most people, you end up beating yourself up each time you feel overwhelmed and you fail.

It is important to remember that there will be instances when you are going to fail.

Failure is a part of life and can be a good thing if you use it to move forward.

Rather than giving in to the temptation of beating yourself up, forgive yourself and move on.

Worrying and beating yourself up will not accomplish anything.

Eighty percent of achieving your goals would rely on your attitude and how you accept failure and use it to motivate you.

You have to figure out what the lessons you need to learn are and use it to help you propel to greater heights.

Manage stress accordingly.

If you want to develop better self-control, eliminate bad habits, and build mental discipline, you need to learn how to master stress accordingly.

If you are feeling anxious and stressed, stop and take in a few deep breaths to slow your heart rate down.

Managing stress effectively will also entail that you eat healthy, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep.

All those can help improve your cognitive function, focus, and your overall health.

This might not be common knowledge but you are more prone to making poor decisions when you are sleep deprived and your blood sugar is low.

Regular exercise can help you sleep better and develop better discipline.

Managing your stress through healthy means can give you the energy to keep grinding.

It can also give you going when the going gets tough and things get a bit overwhelming for you.

Get rid of temptations.

People are not always strong enough to resist every temptation that comes their way. 

That said, if you don’t want to give in to temptation, you need to get it out of your way.

A study conducted by the American Psychological Association revealed that developing self-control through repeated practice will not result in any improvements in self-control.

With this in mind, it would make sense not to beat yourself up for your lack of self-control as people are not wired for it.

So if people are not wired for self-control, how come there are disciplined people around?

The answer is simple: they have removed temptation so self-control is much more straightforward for them.

When you eliminate temptation, you don’t have to struggle to resist it.

Removing temptation can also set you up for success because you are able to better manage yourself and your surroundings.

Getting rid of temptations can also help make decision-making self-reinforcing and automatic so you can focus on your real priorities and make important decisions that truly matter.


Lastly, it is important to remember that what gets measured gets managed so it pays to monitor your progress so you can focus on developing self-control and achieving your goals. Monitoring your progress also allows you to have a better insight into your own behavior. This allows you to not only help develop better self-control but to achieve your goals easier and faster.